Why does my child fiddle and wriggle?

As a parent, you might have noticed that your child seems to have a hard time sitting still. Whether it’s at the dinner table, during homework time, or even while watching TV, they might be constantly fidgeting, wriggling, or playing with objects in their hands.

You may find yourself wondering, “Why can't my child just be still?” In reality, fidgeting is not always a bad thing - it can actually be beneficial for growing minds.

Children’s bodies and brains develop at a rapid pace, and movement is a natural part of that process. For many children, fidgeting is a way to help them concentrate. Research shows that movement, such as fiddling with an object or tapping their feet, can help improve focus, especially during activities that require mental effort, like listening or solving problems. For those with sensory needs, autism, ADHD or attention challenges, this need to move may be even more important and pronounced.

Fiddling and wriggling also allow children to release pent-up energy. Their bodies are naturally more active than adults', and movement helps regulate their emotions and energy levels. Instead of trying to stop them from moving, providing a channel for appropriate movement can be an easier, happier and more helpful approach. Even items like fidget toys, stress balls, or wobble cushions can help your child stay engaged while releasing that extra energy.

So, the next time your child can’t seem to stay still, remember that their need to fiddle and wriggle is part of their growth and development. Embrace their movement and look for ways to guide it positively. By understanding and supporting this need, you'll be helping your child both academically and emotionally.

What can you say to your child?

Fiddling helps your brain

Your brain is like a super-duper computer. When you fiddle or fidget, you're actually helping your brain to stay focused. It might seem strange, but moving your hands or feet can make it easier for you to concentrate on what your teacher is saying or on the book you're reading. It's like giving your brain a little boost.

Wriggling keeps you healthy

Sitting still for too long isn’t great for your body. When you wriggle, stretch, or move around, you're helping your muscles stay strong and healthy. Movement keeps your blood flowing and helps you feel more energetic and alert. So, those wiggles are your body's way of reminding you to stay active.

Fiddling can be creative

Sometimes, when you fiddle with things like building blocks or doodling on paper, you come up with the coolest ideas! Playing with objects can spark your imagination and creativity. You might even find new ways to solve problems or create something amazing.

It’s totally natural

Everyone, from kids to grown-ups, needs to move around. It’s how our bodies are designed. Your teacher might ask you to sit still during class, but they understand that a little bit of movement can actually help you learn better.

Tips for happy fiddling and wriggling

• Use fidget tools
  There are special toys like fidget spinners or stress balls that are perfect for quiet fiddling.

• Take breaks
  Stand up, stretch, or do a quick dance to get your wiggles out.

• Be mindful
  Try to move in ways that don’t distract others.

So, next time you feel the need to fiddle or wriggle, remember it’s just your brain and body doing what they need to do to stay happy and healthy.

Emma Puttock
Children’s Occupational Therapist