It’s ok to play with your children: Why playtime matters

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy for parents to get caught up in the endless list of responsibilities – work, household chores, running errands, and much more. Amidst this whirlwind, playtime with your children might seem like a luxury you can’t afford. However, it’s important to remember that playing with your children isn’t just about having fun; it’s a crucial part of their physical, social and emotional development, as well as your relationship with them.

Why play is important

Children learn about the world through play. It’s how they explore their environment, develop social skills, and learn problem-solving. When you play with your children, you’re not just entertaining them; you’re teaching them. Through play, children can express their feelings, try out new ideas, and develop a sense of competence. Moreover, it allows them to see you in a different light – not just as an authority figure but as a partner in fun.

Building stronger bonds

Playing together strengthens your bond with your child. It creates shared experiences and memories that deepen your relationship. Even a short time spent playing can help you understand your child better – their likes, dislikes, strengths and fears. It’s a chance to connect on a level that might not happen during the more structured parts of your day. For children, knowing that their parents value time with them builds their self-esteem and fosters a sense of confidence and security.

It’s ok to let go

Some parents might feel self-conscious or worry they’re “wasting time” by playing, but it’s important to let go of those thoughts. Play doesn’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Even simple activities like building with blocks, playing pretend, building a den, or tossing a ball can be incredibly rewarding. Remember, the goal isn’t to be perfect; it’s to be present.

In a world that often emphasizes productivity, taking time to play with your children might feel counterintuitive. Yet, it’s one of the most valuable investments you can make. So with the summer holidays midway through, embrace your inner child, ditch the screens and create a new habit so that the next time your child invites you to play, you can say “yes please” without hesitation.

Even older children love these opportunities, no matter how ‘cool’ they may think they are.

Emma Puttock
Children’s Occupational Therapist